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Month: October 2019

So Your Straight, White Friend Asked You to Coffee…

After spending four years at a predominantly white, conservative Christian college while also being black and gay, I got used to being asked to coffee by well-meaning white people who sought to learn more about my experience of living with two types of marginalization; that being based on my race and on my sexual identity. Sometimes I found these conversations to be productive. Other times, these kinds of conversations felt like talking to a fish tank. Most of the time, these conversations were more complicated than rating them as either… Read more So Your Straight, White Friend Asked You to Coffee…

Friendship Through Difference and Disagreement

It should be a given that humans are capable of becoming friends with those they fundamentally disagree with. For example, I have friends who are registered to vote under political parties other than my own, friends who hold varying theological perspectives, and friends who choose not to align themselves with religion at all. These relationships often come with a degree of tension due to our varying experiences, but I find these friendships to be greatly fulfilling because they help inform my understanding of the world around me, offering me insights… Read more Friendship Through Difference and Disagreement

The Lie of Inclusion, Pt. 2: White Queer Negligence

I have been told by some white members of my own queer Christian community that my voice is hostile and that by calling out racism in queer spaces, that I am creating division and creating unsafe spaces for queer people who are white and/or conservative. I have even been told that my voice makes it harder for LGBTQ folks to gain acceptance by the straight conservative Christians who don’t understand us. Criticisms such as these coming from within the queer community come from places of unaddressed privilege. When someone tells… Read more The Lie of Inclusion, Pt. 2: White Queer Negligence